I got this today and I thought, "That is SO me!!"
O.K., so I know I have lots of "issues". You know, my own personal neuroses. I guess we all do, but most everyone else seems to do a better job of hiding them.
A biggie for me is feeling left out. With so many activities going on this summer, it's bound to happen that I'm not invited to all of them. Or even most of them. And when it's a big event that lots of people are invited to, well... let's just say the anxieties go into overdrive.
In my mind I know these things happen. It's not practical to invite every person you know. I don't invite everyone I know to everything I do. And some of the people who have not invited me to join them, I can look back and see that I haven't invited them to anything either.
And forget talking to Tim about it. He's so rational and... maddening! He points out a million reasons why I have no right to get my feelings hurt. In my head, I know he's right.
Still, that second grader inside says, "Doesn't anyone want to be my friend?"
So this is one of my perpetual struggles. (I've been told I need therapy, but I say it's cheaper and easier just to go out with friends! See why the Starbucks ad is perfect for me?)
The only reason I bring this up is because of recent conversation where someone confessed to feeling the same way.
It was something I never imagined. Some people seem to be in the center of everything. But I guess even they have their names fall off the invitation list once in a while.
So, I have no answers.
I just know it sucks to be left out.
Maybe a blog is better than a therapist. But just so I don't take any chances, I think I'll head over to Starbucks with a friend and get a Blueberries and Creme Frapuccino!
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Which friend??? My cell isn't ringing.. oh my gosh, you left me out.. how dare you... come on now... don't I rate... I mean, even a little.
I am calling Tim.
Ok Michelle, I know this sounds a little too late but...I would like to invite you to Starbucks. And maybe our time together will replace one of those twenty therapists.
By the way, most of my friends tell me I need therapy. I got a blog instead. It works.
#1- Happy Belated Birthday.
#2- I think when you are a good friend to others and try to include everyone yourself, then when you are not included it hurts! I am 55 years old and I still get my feelings hurt when I am not included! So when that happens I go out to coffee (It's A Grind- thank you!)with a friend and I feel so much better!
Okay, Michelle I have only been a reader of blogs and not a writer. However, today you have changed me FOREVER!!.
What's so bad about therapy? What about going to Starbucks with a therapist friend??? Just a thought. (:
Sorry to be so rational. You're right. Nobody likes you and you have no friends. There, hope you feel better now.
How fun all these comments are! I'll have to make a Starbucks date with all of you!!
(Except Tim - he sucks.)
can I come?
Can I come too!
Hello,
How about inviting your mother? She often feels left out and likes Starbucks. She may even pay.
Mom
Hey Sharon,
I'll invite you if you'll pay! :-)
OK Michelle, you are crushing the strong and secure image I have always admired you for and held you so high on a pedestal for. Don't do this to me. I'm gonna let this one go and try to banish it from my mind.
Michelle,
I feel left out A LOT. Maybe it is a chick thing. Doesn't feel good tho, I know.
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